In this episode, host Dana Skaggs sits down with Kristal Desantis to talk about why traditional masculinity is struggling in modern relationships. Kristal describes what she calls the “broken script,” where old-school roles of men as sole protectors and providers clash with today’s need for emotional partnership. This leaves a lot of men caught in a “masculinity trap”—criticized for being too stoic but judged when they open up. The two dive into topics like emotional safety, touch starvation, and the pressure to measure up to narrow definitions of worth. Kristal also shares her “STRONG” model, a down-to-earth framework to help men move past performative roles and create healthier, more genuine connections.
Why Traditional Masculinity Is Failing Modern Relationships
- September 7, 2025

About The Host
Dana Skaggs is called the Queen of Boundaries because of her extraordinary skill at helping her clients understand how the lack of healthy boundaries contributes to their problems. She has been in private practice for over 15 years, specializing in anxiety and adjustment issues as well as trauma work.

About The Host
Dana Skaggs is called the Queen of Boundaries because of her extraordinary skill at helping her clients understand how the lack of healthy boundaries contributes to their problems. She has been in private practice for over 15 years, specializing in anxiety and adjustment issues as well as trauma work.
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